The last four months have been focussed on one event.  My daughter’s prom.  At times it felt like we were getting ready for her wedding.  Only, it wasn’t exactly the same,  since there are no in-laws and I still get to keep her close.  At least until next September when she goes off to school and her first adult adventure.

We won’t talk about university right now, though, because I’m still getting over the bittersweet feelings that were stirred up by watching my girl get dressed to the nines and take off in a stretch limo like a movie star, ready to go who knows where and do who knows what.

It feels like it was just yesterday that I was putting her hair in a Pebbles fountain-top for her first birthday party. Her prom hairdo and unbelievable makeup job were a far cry from that little ponytail, this much is true. But, it was still my baby girl underneath all the over-the-top glamour. An extraordinarily confident, self-assured young woman, yes, but still my sweet little one.

I’m taking deep breaths here, seriously. Just trying to breathe. And to savour the moment.

And trying not to think about how this prom has left me broke. Happy, melancholy, proud, and temporarily cash-free.

The husband doesn’t know, but since we’re all friends here, I thought I’d share the fact that this prom cost an extraordinary amount of money. Was it well spent? You betcha. To tell you the truth, if there were do-overs available, I wouldn’t change one single thing.

Why?  WHAT?  

I’m not crazy. I know that it is insane to blow the bank on a prom. But, considering the true value of the day, I think I got a bargain.

Spending a whole day with my daughter dress shopping, including lunch and a long conversation about everything and nothing? PRICELESS

Another whole day looking for shoes? PRICELESS

Countless text messages and pictures regarding shoes, handbags, earrings and more? PRICELESS

A text reading:  I got asked to the prom. He’s so cute. Are you happy? LOL?  PRICELESS

Another whole day together getting beautiful (er)? PRICELESS

Watching her 12 year old brother help zip up her dress? PRICELESS

Watching my princess try to pin a boutonniere on her date? PRICELESS

While there’s a 50% chance than she will have more than one wedding, it’s an absolute guarantee that she’ll only have one prom. The day was a one-shot deal. I don’t believe that you can put a price on those kinds of moments.

Soon, she will be all grown up, and the opportunities to share memories like these will become fewer and farther in-between.

Carpe Diem. Seize the day.

Anyways, she did her own nails. We totally know how to economize.




  1. LOVE THIS!! So happy you got to enjoy that time. I am all teary here. My daughter is finishing up sophomore year and we are talking about college choices. Breathe Deep. Those days of pigtails are behind us, but I am holding on to every day for all its worth!


    • Jen, you are right. Just hold on to it. What I’ll miss most are the daily updates of her life. You can bet at least for the first few months she won’t be calling me everyday.

  2. Great post. She looks stunning. A prom is a special event and an experience she will always remember. Your thoughts and memories will be just as special. A wonderful mother-daughter moment.

  3. Aww, what a beautiful post. I wish I had a relationship like that with my mom. What a wonderful way to celebrate such a momentous occasion. Glad to hear your daughter had a great night!

    • Thanks Brandy. You know what? I wish I’d had a relationship like this with my mom as well, and that’s why I’ve powered through my daughter’s defenses to create one. It’s really special.

  4. She is stunning!!!! Sounds like the two of you created some wonderful memories that will last a life time.

    • Thank you so much, Ann. I really hope that we were able to give her a night she’ll always remember.

  5. Mara,

    She’s ABSOLUTELY beautiful!

  6. I so appreciate being reminded to savor these precious moments. Thank you so much.

  7. I love how frugal you are about not paying for a manicure. Happy you had so many lovely and memorable moments together.

  8. Pam @writewrds says:

    Love this, love this, love this. So glad you made it happen and were there for her 200 percent, Mara.
    It is and was a big life gift for you both.


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