Remember when you were a teenager and the things your parents used to say, over and over and over again, made you want to stick your fingers in your ears and sing? It was as if they couldn’t hear themselves. How could they not know they sounded like a broken record I couldn’t toss in the trash?
Now, a good 30 years later, I am amused to see that #ThingsMyParentsSay is trending on Twitter.
I would like to think that in the past few decades, we’ve made some advances in our roles as progressive Moms and Dads, that we’ve come a long way, baby. Nowadays, we download books, we research online, we write blogs, tweet, share stories, swap advice. We work hard to give our kids positive messages, reinforcement, guidance, support. Surely, they are reaping the benefit from all our attention and soaking in the best of who we are.
So what are parents today (me!) saying that’s different from what our folks said back then? Not much, it turns out.
According to teens on twitter, here’s just a sampling of what our kids hear us say:
“Are you really going to school looking like that??”
“Where are you going? I want the address, postal code, latitude and longitude, phone number & maps for directions.”
“So if your friends jumped off a bridge would you do the same?”
“When I was your age ….”
Parents: “You never do anything.” Me: I fake a smile, pretend that everything’s okay & try to be strong.
“I bet your friends aren’t like this.”
“Is that all I’m good for? Money?”
“I just have this gut feeling…”
“You will not leave this house until that room is clean, it looks like a bomb went off in there!”
“All the things they said they would never say when they had kids.”
Yeah, no kidding.
Ask your kids what they hear you say. You may be surprised.