Want to go for the parenting win? Tell your kid when they’ve screwed up.
In this age of helicopter parenting and over-praising, it’s tempting to just let our kids get away with minor infractions like temper tantrums or general asshattedness. But, temptation be damned, sometimes they need to be called on their crap.
I find out that my son, who is gifted, and extremely bright, has been lording his brains over the other kids at school. This, type of behaviour I will absolutely not stand for. Being smart is a responsibility, not a license to be a rude bugger.
I call him into the kitchen.
‘Hey kid, I heard that you were acting like a pompous jerk at school, and that you made Johnny feel really bad about himself. That’s not really acceptable. And probably why you sit home by yourself every weekend.’ (Harsh, yes, but Mama speaks the truth.)
He looks down, abashed, which is how I know he did it. When he thinks he’s being falsely accused, he gets indignant.
‘You’ll need to apologize, k?’
‘OK’, he says, and walks off.
Later, I go up to his room.
‘So, did you text him?’
‘Yah, he accepted my apology.’
‘That’s good. I’m glad.’
‘You know what, Mom? I think I’ve been acting like a bit of an asshole lately.’
And…Mom’s work is SO done for the day. Let’s see what tomorrow brings.
What kinds of things do you let ride and which get a call-out?